I was chatting the other day with my friend Cate. She’s had to start all over after the abrupt ending of her marriage. It’s been one of the hardest, darkest times of her life. But, in the end, now that she’s on the other side, she’s more grateful than she thought she’d ever be.
Our conversation had me thinking about one of my own “growth” periods many years ago. The ending of a cherished relationship became the wake-up call that changed the course of my life. It set me on a new path. And through the healing activated by the breakup, I discovered the realm of clairvoyance and energy healing, and haven’t looked back since.
But, you know, that breakup of mine could have been just another breakup. I could have licked my wounds, recovered from the blow, and then put myself back out there again. I could have done what I had done many times before. I could have told myself he was the wrong guy, or that we just weren’t a good fit. (And, on one level, that might have been true.)
If I had done that, as I had in the past, I would have missed the tremendous opportunity to go deep within myself and discover the parts of me I had abandoned while being in relationship.
I want to linger on this idea of “going deep within to discover the abandoned parts.” Because, in my experience, that is no small thing.
To take that first step and confront your fears, to unearth and process the decades of stuck pain, to both take responsibility for and surrender yourself to the process of healing — is nothing short of heroic.
And the funny thing is, once I stepped in, even in the deluge of fear, pain, and grief, I discovered an unquenchable thirst for freedom and empowerment. Just taking that first step, telling myself, “I’ll never abandon myself again,” triggered an upswell of courage and a cascade of healing.
Life asks us to take that first step on our own behalf. It’s pretty amazing when you think of it. We get to decide. We get to choose when and how we’re going to step in for our own healing.
And, even more amazing, when we take that first step, we’re met by life with support and encouragement. It’s all around us — we just need to pause and notice.
And now, way on the other side, I can say with full confidence that I wouldn’t change a thing. Because that whole phase gave me back parts of me I had long forgotten. And, most of all, I reclaimed that part of me that sings in the key of courage, freedom, and empowerment.
So, if you find yourself in a phase of deep growth, I wanted to send you this message of encouragement. What a sacred time it is. And I want to offer you a question to live into right now:
What once forgotten parts of you are you discovering now?
Maybe you’re discovering an innocent playfulness, or the joys of birdsong at sunrise, or a thirst for travel and adventure, or the wonder of your breath flowing through your body. Or, something else?
I also want to share this free virtual retreat with you, “Heartbreak to Breakthrough: conversations with healers, magic makers, and believers.”
Cate Gaffney (my friend I mentioned at the beginning of this email), as a result of her own healing process, has gathered a network of healers (including me) for this virtual retreat. We’ll be talking about how to transform heartbreak into profound life breakthroughs.
If you could use a little comfort and a little inspiration in these times, I encourage you to sign up. The retreat happens on April 15, and you can sign up for it through this link.
Most of all, I honor your sacred journey and send you my warmest blessings.
Are you experiencing heartbreak and want to create a profound breakthrough in your life? Sometimes reading about isn’t enough to make the changes you most long for. If this is the case for you, I invite you to book a healing session with me. In our session, I can help illuminate and clear any blocks you have to your own heart healing, and gently support you on your journey to breakthrough. So you can expand your capacity to love yourself and share yourself with the world with grace and authenticity. Book your session today!